I have this pattern I've repeated for the past couple of years that I've recently started referring to as"dating hibernation". It's basically exactly what it sounds like. I don't really date/have much interest in dating during months of December - March.
Maybe it's the cold. Maybe it's the 5 lbs. you put on in the winter. Maybe it's the fact that holidays (Dec.), followed by my organization's annual fundraiser (Jan.), followed by Love of Friends (Feb.), doesn't leave me with much free time this season. Maybe it's just become a habit.
I feel like I've been asked a lot lately if I'm dating anyone, to which I say "no", and when asked "why not?" I don't have any good answer to give other than "I don't feel like it." I don't think people would necessarily understand what I mean were I to start responding, "Of course I'm not dating anyone, it's February!"
Now of course, I'll change my mind about this the moment I to meet someone who is wow-ing. But, I'm picky, and am so far enjoying my hibernation.
I have a lot of friends who are in really amazing relationships that are moving forward to exciting next levels; marriage, moving in together, making the relationship official on facebook. They are totally inspiring to me, and I would be a liar if I were to say I didn't want that for myself.
It's a choice, being single. And one that I'm quite happy with lately. And just to be clear, not dating does not mean there's no flirting. That's a skill that needs to be practiced year-round.
Come April, I'll shed my tights, and winter parka, and the 5 lbs, and start dating again. Until then, I'm going to enjoy cooking dinner for myself, working on some really exciting projects, and going dancing with my friends.